The problem with incel discourse online.
Note. What I am about to say is not intended to be misogynistic. I do not want to blame women for external factors. I do not hate them.
A while ago, I came across a comment on reddit on how to prevent more men going down the road of inceldom and there was a comment that really stuck out to me and something that I feel like is incredibly important in discussion of incels. They mentioned that in order to talk about incels, You need to center it around incels.
While this seems obvious, It's not so much when you look at actual conversations. From what I've seen, A lot of incel discourse is revolved around Women and how THEY are affected by inceldom. And yes, It is absolutely true that misogyny is a huge aspect of the incel. But to constantly center a primarily male issue as women problems ONLY MAKES THE INCEL PROBLEM WORSE because their voices aren't being heard and all of the attention goes to the people they hate. If you got bullied and all of the attention went to your bully and how they felt instead of you, I bet you would feel the same.
The only gender that incels are going to hear out from is males. And as much as I hate to say it, More specifically: "Masculine" males (At least look the part). If we want to prevent more incels, We need one thing. DON'T TALK ABOUT WOMEN! Nothing. Not even a peep with women. We need to talk about how incels affect men and how they as men can be a better person. And a little bit more importantly. We need to tell them that it's ok to not be with anyone (Don't say girlfriend) and that being single is a GOOD thing. But if we stop talking about their enemy first, Maybe the incels will finally hear out from others and just maybe, Realize they are not so healthy and need help.
As men, It is OUR responsibility. Not the other genders.